Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff and It’s All Small Stuff

One of the books I always regret reading late in my life is Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff … and It’s All Small Stuff by Richard Carlson. Mark my words: when you read this book, you will also feel the same. I even believe that it should be included in the primary education curriculum.

Below are the few main points I summarize.

  • The great discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitude.
  • There are two rules for living in harmony. #1) Don’t sweat the small stuff and #2) it’s all small stuff.
  • Change the things that can be changed, accept those that cannot, and have the wisdom to know the difference.
  • Make peace with imperfection. The need for perfection and the desire for inner tranquillity conflict with each other.
  • Notice what’s happening in your head before your thoughts have a chance to build any momentum. The sooner you catch yourself in the act of building your mental snowball, the easier it is to stop.
  • Don’t interrupt others or finish their sentences.
  • Let others have the glory.
  • Learn to live life in the present moment. Life is what’s happening when we are busy making other plans.
  • Mark Twain: I have been through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened.
  • Imagine that everyone is enlightened except you. All you’re really doing is changing your perception from “why are they doing this?” to “what they are trying to teach me?” Take a look around today at all the enlightened people.
  • Let others be “right” most of the time. Ask yourself: do I want to be right or to be happy? Many times, the two are mutually exclusive.
  • Become more patient. Patience adds a dimension of ease and acceptance to your life. It’s essential for inner peace.
  • Patience also involves seeing innocence in others.
  • Create practice patience periods, say for 5 minutes.
  • Ask yourself: will this matter a year from now.
  • Allow yourself to be bored. We are no longer human beings; we are human doings.
  • Seek first to understand.
  • Become a better listener.
  • You will experience both praise and blame.
  • See the innocence.
  • Choose being kind over being right.
  • Practice humility.
  • Resist the urge to criticize.
  • Understand the statement, wherever you go, there you are.
  • Breathe before you speak.
  • Relax and enjoy your driving time.
  • Most of us postpone relaxation until our “in-basket” is empty. Of course, it never is.
  • We form opinions and spend our entire lifetimes validating what we believe to be true.
  • When you are angry, count to 10 before responding.
  • There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.
  • Meditate by sitting alone quietly, closing your eyes and focusing your attention on breath – in and out, in and out.
  • Be an early riser.
  • Live each day as if it is your last.

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